I’m sure there are other ideas around too, but in my clinical experience of exploring these things, I’ve found a remarkable correlation with his theory, even though correlation doesn’t equal causation!’ ‘The second active period is usually puberty when curiosity and experimentation and burgeoning sexuality can give some peak experiences. ‘Years later, he wonders where his interest in leather comes from, and his first recollection takes him back to this innocent and yet highly charged emotional experience. ‘An example I often cite is a little boy being taken for a spin in his Dad’s new car: the smell of leather, the warmth of the sun, Dad’s excited mood and a special bonding just between father and son. ‘And whilst in that hyper-aroused state, we have a powerful sensory experience that unconsciously hooks the two things together. It could be excitement, or fear or anything pretty intense. Around the age of eight or nine we might have some kind of intense emotional experience – probably non-sexual. ‘Sexologist John Bancroft proposed that there are two periods in our life when we’re especially likely to develop fetishes. However, Davies also has plenty of thoughts about why we develop fetishes generally. Why foot fetishism is more popular with men remains unknown. So these fantasies are most common among men and non-binary folk.’ Why do we develop fetishes? ‘For non-binary individuals, it was 18.7%.
‘In Justin Lehmiller’s survey of 4,175 Americans’ sex fantasies from his book Tell Me What You Want, he found the following results with respect to whether people reported having ever had a sexual fantasy in which feet or toes played a prominent role: 4.7% of heterosexual women, 18.4% of heterosexual men, 10.9% of non-heterosexual women, and 20.9% of non-heterosexual men. More common in men than womenĪccording to Davies, it’s not surprising that many guys in dating apps express an interest in feet. Several mentioned the submissive-dominant aspect of foot worship. I prefer executive daddies with black socks or sweaty bad boys.’Īnother found long toes a particular turn-on. What really appeals to me is the whole package. ‘One thing that drives me crazy is tanned and hairy feet with delicate soles,’ said Vinicius Ribeiro (who shares some of his feet-related interests via his Instagram ‘But the aesthetic part is not the main thing. ‘I am attracted by chubby men feet, the feet need to be chunky,’ said one. Other guys who talked to Gay Star News expressed a strong interest in certain types of feet. ‘And of course relationships and play often involve indulging your partner – on both sides – with some common ground in the middle. Others will be like, “here’s my feet”, maybe get me to massage them for a bit, possibly even step on me for a few minutes, then it’s back to something more vanilla, back into their comfort zone.
I like to go under my guy’s hot sneakers, boots, socks and sexy feet – literally have him walk over me, trample me.’Īre most guys he meets happy to indulge his interest?
When it comes to incorporating his attraction to feet into his sex life, Mark says, ‘I’ll be honest, it does pretty much dominate my play, and in a dominant way too. Photo courtesy (Instagram) ‘Some guys just find it too unusual’ ‘Once the footwear is off, I’m usually more attracted to white sports socks, and if they have nice feet, then I’m up for them naked as well. ‘What peaks my interest? Nikes more often than not, but sneakers generally. Mark says when he spots a guy he’s attracted to, the first thing he look at is his footwear. ‘Those adolescent years, when boys are becoming men, all of a sudden I found myself curiously interested in what those men had on their feet! I was certainly into it in time for my first school crush.’ He says he first became aware of it during secondary school. He has a particularly interest in being squashed and trampled under another guy’s feet. Mark ( a 37-year-old gay man, is one such foot worshipper.